Do you often need to be in control? Is it ever challenging f..

Do you often need to be in control? Is it ever challenging for you to trust and let go? Here are some ways to shift that:

Many of us have been trained to be (to think that we are) in control, not out of natural leadership, but out of fear of losing control. Ironically, us trying to be in control makes us less powerful. It looks like power, but really, it's draining us and disconnecting us from the natural flow of life. Our ego becomes CEO, and we play out stories and patterns without fulfilling our truest potential.

Why? When we grasp onto things, try to change things or keep them a certain way, we expect things, plan as if we knew, and never fully accept "what is" and open up to infinite possibilities. We disconnect from life's highest potential that could deliver better gifts than what our current awareness can conjure.

That's been one of the biggest lessons of my life. I've often been a control freak with big challenges to trust and delegate. Granted, I'm pretty good at what I do ;) and life naturally met my expectations with disappointment, reaffirming my mind's story that I should just do it all on my own, but we both know this isn't sustainable or viable.

We're meant to do it together. We're supported. We're here to remember that the Universe has our back and that it's now safe to trust, to let go, to allow, to surrender and fall into God's arms.

Learning to surrender happens at a mind level:
1. Keeping promises to yourself to build trust, and therefore, trust others (i.e. control yourself, build safety with yourself, the rest isn't for you to control)
2. Catching yourself when you try to control things, and opening up to possibilities and/or allowing others to take initiative
3. Not resisting what is or trying to change it, but accepting it and going with it with a curious mindset: "Why is this happening like this?!" >> "I wonder why it's happening this way and why I feel xxx".

And in your body:
1. Using breath+sound+movement to shake out contraction, tension, and leftovers from being so tensed >> shake it out!
2. Dancing, flowing, moving more, letting your body also "be in control", moving awareness from your head to body.
3. Anal play: lots of emotion and tension is stored in the anus. Massaging your anus in a circular motion with oil or in the shower helps to relax controlling tendencies.

A few months ago, I was in Egypt and arrived in the desert after a pretty intense day. I surrendered to my impulse and ran with the photographer out in the desert. I took out my clothes as the sun was setting and we captured this moment of surrender to all I was feeling.

Surrender to Spirit, surrender to the perfection of the now. There's a gift in every moment that's unlocked through this deep trust and acceptance.

Are you ready to surrender? <3